I like SLEs cause I always know like, where I really stand. Like they instantly remind me of myself and my place in the world. I just feel like, 'who I really am' matters. As corny and teenage girl-ish as that sounds.
With other types it's almost like I have to put on this mask to get along. But with SLEs I can just be COMPLETELY as how I want to act naturally, like my 'living room' personality at all times. It's so great!
I was just thinking of how we take just being ourselves for granted. Think about it. When you do most things in life, you have to well kinda bury who you really are to perform, to present something that isn't really you- that's fake, that's not authentic.
male IEI here, i've been around an estp and i felt like the more time i spent with them the more i was becoming like the kind of person i really am. seems consistent with what you're describing. i thought it was an amazing feeling.
I'm a female SLE. With IEIs, I don't feel awkward. Usually, I have to temper myself, and be more "polite", soften the blow, sort of watch what I say and how I say it, but IEI, very surprisingly, doesn't mind at all. They enjoy me telling them things bluntly and as it is. I like their encouragement and niceties, because it never seems overdone or insincere to me. The gloves come off, the masks are cast away.
We talk about the strangest things. I can literally say whatever comes to mind and I think they can too. They usually tell me their secrets (which tend to be SHOCKING!). Other people will comment about how innocent the IEI is and I think, if only you knew. I feel secure telling them my secrets knowing they won't judge me or make me feel guilty. IEI have an enormous capacity to understand people in all sorts of circumstances.
They help me mature and become my "best" self, without pissing me off or making me feel like shit. Other types will try to change how I function (belittle me for engaging in high risk SLE activities like skydiving, marathon running, etc) or tell me my moral blueprint is messed up, but IEI helps me accept myself as I am.
I find most people misunderstand IEI, often people close to them have no concept of their inner life, struggles, etc. They take advantage of their kindness and see them as handicapped sometimes. I see this whole other side of them as being strong and capable that most people don't. In the same way, IEI probably sees a softer side of me that others don't.
I was talking to an IEI and two other people..and basically they were saying about me.."sle is a lot of fun/crazy/etc" and IEI says "sle is also very caring and deep" and the other two burst out laughing...saying "no not really"
I have a harder time getting them to come out though..they like to hang out indoors..which I don't mind as much because they make great company. We do sometimes end up relaxing too much, being lazy..but honestly, its a welcome break from the stress of life. They always feel like home to me.
/I was talking to an IEI and two other people..and basically they were saying about me.."sle is a lot of fun/crazy/etc" and IEI says "sle is also very caring and deep" and the other two burst out laughing...saying "no not really"/
I had very similar situation and I'm female IEI. Once my school friends were slaging SLE off. They were saying "SLE succeded because he's just always lucky. Actually he's supid smoothie". Even though I wasn't friends with him I said "I don't agree. SLE is very intelligent" and I meant it.
Love these comments! I am ENFp with a new Dual in my life after a long life with no true love. I am praying my SLE son (16) meets an INFp someday when he is ready to marry! He is an only child and as I look forward to a promising and happy future with my Dual, I want that for him so very much. An INFp(IEI) would know that he is not callous and shallow as he can sometimes appear, and could appreciate him for who he is and he would love her true and faithfully. And many children, I hope! My SLI and I would be happy to babysit!
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ReplyDeleteI like SLEs cause I always know like, where I really stand. Like they instantly remind me of myself and my place in the world. I just feel like, 'who I really am' matters. As corny and teenage girl-ish as that sounds.
With other types it's almost like I have to put on this mask to get along. But with SLEs I can just be COMPLETELY as how I want to act naturally, like my 'living room' personality at all times. It's so great!
I was just thinking of how we take just being ourselves for granted. Think about it. When you do most things in life, you have to well kinda bury who you really are to perform, to present something that isn't really you- that's fake, that's not authentic.
male IEI here, i've been around an estp and i felt like the more time i spent with them the more i was becoming like the kind of person i really am. seems consistent with what you're describing. i thought it was an amazing feeling.
ReplyDeleteI'd like to echo the above sentiments. I feel as though I'm coming into myself in the presence of my SLE duals.
ReplyDeleteI'm a female SLE. With IEIs, I don't feel awkward. Usually, I have to temper myself, and be more "polite", soften the blow, sort of watch what I say and how I say it, but IEI, very surprisingly, doesn't mind at all. They enjoy me telling them things bluntly and as it is. I like their encouragement and niceties, because it never seems overdone or insincere to me. The gloves come off, the masks are cast away.
ReplyDeleteWe talk about the strangest things. I can literally say whatever comes to mind and I think they can too. They usually tell me their secrets (which tend to be SHOCKING!). Other people will comment about how innocent the IEI is and I think, if only you knew. I feel secure telling them my secrets knowing they won't judge me or make me feel guilty. IEI have an enormous capacity to understand people in all sorts of circumstances.
They help me mature and become my "best" self, without pissing me off or making me feel like shit. Other types will try to change how I function (belittle me for engaging in high risk SLE activities like skydiving, marathon running, etc) or tell me my moral blueprint is messed up, but IEI helps me accept myself as I am.
I find most people misunderstand IEI, often people close to them have no concept of their inner life, struggles, etc. They take advantage of their kindness and see them as handicapped sometimes. I see this whole other side of them as being strong and capable that most people don't. In the same way, IEI probably sees a softer side of me that others don't.
I was talking to an IEI and two other people..and basically they were saying about me.."sle is a lot of fun/crazy/etc" and IEI says "sle is also very caring and deep" and the other two burst out laughing...saying "no not really"
I have a harder time getting them to come out though..they like to hang out indoors..which I don't mind as much because they make great company. We do sometimes end up relaxing too much, being lazy..but honestly, its a welcome break from the stress of life. They always feel like home to me.
/I was talking to an IEI and two other people..and basically they were saying about me.."sle is a lot of fun/crazy/etc" and IEI says "sle is also very caring and deep" and the other two burst out laughing...saying "no not really"/
ReplyDeleteI had very similar situation and I'm female IEI.
Once my school friends were slaging SLE off. They were saying "SLE succeded because he's just always lucky. Actually he's supid smoothie". Even though I wasn't friends with him I said "I don't agree. SLE is very intelligent" and I meant it.
Love these comments! I am ENFp with a new Dual in my life after a long life with no true love. I am praying my SLE son (16) meets an INFp someday when he is ready to marry! He is an only child and as I look forward to a promising and happy future with my Dual, I want that for him so very much. An INFp(IEI) would know that he is not callous and shallow as he can sometimes appear, and could appreciate him for who he is and he would love her true and faithfully. And many children, I hope! My SLI and I would be happy to babysit!
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